I have to say that all of this as taught me a few things about how to deal with this situation in the future, if someone close to me has it happen to them. As uncomfortable as it is to listen and be there, I will pledge to be there. I will make an effort to reach out to my friend and listen to whatever they have to say. I will not assume that they will call if they need anything - in fact, I will assume that they are so confused, ashamed, embarrassed and upset that as hard as they try to dial the phone, or walk into the house, it just cannot happen. I promise that I will be there, because I have been there....
And, I am not saying that I have not had family members and friends that have done this for me. I have and I do...and my daughter and I are and will be eternally grateful for these people.
It is difficult to know how to react when someone announces that their teen aged daughter is having a baby, but I am here to say that the worst thing that you can say is "I am sorry." Every time someone says that I want to ask them if anyone ever said that to them when they announced that they were pregnant....or when they were telling someone that they were going to be a Grandparent....
Nobody died. A baby is going to be born. For that, nobody should be sorry.
If you don't believe that congratulations are in order, just ask us how our family is doing....
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